PUT YOURSELF FIRST

"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine"-
 Ralph Waldo Emerson

Why is it that we spend so much time trying to please others and so little time not making ourselves a priority in our own lives?  Could it be that we feel we are not worthy of being a priority?  We should all be our own #1 priority.  So many goddesses I talk to feel they need to be people-pleasers and make everyone else in their lives a priority, and, if there is any of their time and energy left, they give it to themselves. As women, I think many of us are conditioned to think this way.  We all need to start putting ourselves at the top of our own priority list. We need to appreciate ourselves more.  I think we all spend to much time feeling less than fabulous and we need to remind ourselves how great we are!
 Start by making a list of all your good points- kindness, hard-working,creative, whatever you feel are your best attributes and things you do well.. Once you start listing things you will begin to realize there are more wonderful things you can say about yourself than you thought. Try to list as many things as possible -challenge yourself.
 You will begin to see you are definately worthy of being a priority in your own life. Everytime you make a to-do list "do something nice for me" should be at he top of that list. Pretty soon you will begin to feel so much better about yourself and your whole life. It's a real attitude changer. 

Why must we always feel self-conscious?

"self pity is our enemy, if we yield to it we may never do anything wise in this world" -  Helen Keller

  Why must we all feel self-conscious?  I was talking to one of my goddess friends recently and the subject of going out to dinner came up.  she said she always orders a salad or something healthy looking because she constantly feels like people are judging her. "I never order what I really want.  I feel like everyone is staring at me and thinking -look at that fat woman eating that steak!"  I was surprised that she was so self-conscious and even more surprised how many others felt the same way.  I used to feel like that but no more.
  Here's an excercise- one day last summer I decided to wander down to the food court in the mall and order an ice cream cone. I decided to sit outside and eat it with the biggest smile I could muster on my face.  I was sending a message to the world that I was happy and didn't care what anyone else thought.  The result? 3 strangers sat down next to me because I looked like a fun person to talk to.  They weren't judging me, they wanted to get to know me. It was eye-opening.
  Since then I go out to dinner alone once a month and order whatever I want and smile through my dinner.  I am sending a message that I am fine just the way I am and it's o.k. to order whatever I want.  In fact, as I look around the room I see many women looking like they are envious that I can do this.
Give it a try. Get out there and live your life!  Enjoy your life!