The Black Hole

 "Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are" -  Malcolm Forbes

Today I'd like to address a subject that is very passionate for me. Too many women I know have fallen into the black hole.  They wear black all the time. So many goddesses will come shopping for new clothes and fall in love with an item that comes in 4 different colors and invariably end up with the black.
This makes me sad.  We tend to walk around like we're in mourning all the time. Many women are, in fact, in mourning - for the person they used to be when they were 'thinner'. It's as if they feel that person was more lovable, more beautiful and more worthy than who they are now simply because they've put on weight.  You are still the same person inside and you need to remember that more often.
 I hear it so often, that age-old tale, "but black is more slimming".  The truth is there are many women who actually don't look that good in black, in fact, there are many colors that are much more flattering than black depending on your hair, skin and eye color. So many goddesses I see are afraid to try some colors, afraid they'll stand out too much.  I say- what's wrong with that? We are fabulous and there is no reason we should not stand out. 
 Too many goddesses wear it because everyone says they should because it is "slimming".  My answer to that is "why do you care what anybody else thinks?  wouldn't you rather wear a color that makes you feel happy?  Color is a great mood elevator so stop depressing yourself and get out there and start wearing happy colors.  Where is it written that we do not deserve to be as happy as someone who is thinner? (not here that's for sure).
 Try to look at yourself with a more objective eye next time you try on a bright, beautiful color and you'll see I'm right.  You'll feel better and look better too. 
 Wearing bold colors is a sign of confidence and if you wear them often , even if you're not too confident now, may make you feel more confident. 
I had a discussion with my friend's brother and some of his friends recently. They said that if they're out a bar, or anywhere else they happen to be, looking to meet a woman they will not usually approach women wearing black. "Too many body issues",they said. They told me if they walked up to a table of 4 women, three were wearing black, one was wearing red and the one who was wearing red was 30 pounds heavier than the others, they would still approach the woman in red .  "She exudes confidence, that's the woman for me.  The other women would be perceived by me as more insecure."  I found that interesting that such a small thing could make such a big difference in people's pereceptions. But some of the goddesses do feel very insecure about their bodies so they may have a point.
 I think we should all stand up and say "I am beautiful just the way I am and I will wear more colors that reflect  how happy and fabulous I am.