WE ALWAYS HURT THE ONES WE LOVE


"Don't you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness you are." -  Jo Blackwell-Preston


Sorry I've been away for awhile , it feels good to be back.
While I was out of town, I was talking to several of my goddess friends and heard some rather disturbing stories.  We were talking about one girl in particular whose family has as little contact with her as possible because they are all thin and she is overweight and they say they are ashamed to be seen with her. This broke my heart. All she wants is to spend time with the people who should love her unconditionally and they don't want to have anything to do with her. As family members it should not matter what size someone is, we should all love each other unconditionally.  she has said "it's alright, I have plenty of friends who love me." It's great that she has a support system, but it's sad that her own family cannot get past the judgements they feel they must make about her. We are all worthy of being loved and the people closest to us need to believe that.
 I heard another story of a family that was going on vacation to a tropical climate. They had three  grown daughter's, two of whom where thin and one who was overweight. The overweight daughter was not invited. When she asked why her mother replied "I thought you would be uncomfortable. You'd have to wear shorts and a swimsuit". The daughter said she would not feel uncomfortable but her mother said it was too late to change their plans and include her.  What her mother was actually saying was that she would feel uncomfortable and she would feel like she was being judged- it really had nothing to do with her daughter's feelings. This is so sad.
 Why can't we realize how much we hurt those closest to us? We look to our families to love us and care about us no matter what and all to often we are let down. We just need to remind ourselves that no matter what anyone else says we are worthy of beig loved unconditionally and it starts when we look in the mirror every morning and say to ourselves "you are fabulous, I love you!" It may be hard in the bginning but I can tell you it's worth it. If we don't love ourselves how can we expect others to. Even if your family members never change their attitude, you will always know you are worthy and what others think should never alter our opinion of ourselves.One of my friends always says -"family can get to you more than anyone , they really know how to push your buttons." This is probably true but we must all learn to rise above it and not let it get to you when they try to talk you down. Always remember you are fabulous just the way you are and if they don't understand that it's a shame.
 Someday I hope we all can realize just how much we can hurt the ones we love, till then,just remember to love yourself everyday.